I got mad at one of my best friends a few weeks ago. I was having one of those days. My prospects for success looked bleak, my ego was fragile, my abilities were few and inconsequential. And I felt fat. I was listing off all of the things at which I felt mediocre at best and he told me "if you want to be better at something, work harder". In the moment that advice felt more like an insult. I'm not good enough because I haven't MADE myself good enough? Well then life IS over because by golly I can't DO anymore. This is as good as it gets and it is NOT ENOUGH.
But it's a new year and a time for resolutions and I've realized (and he will LOVE this) that he may have been right. The beginning of a new year is a time when it is appropriate for other people to ask you what you don't like about yourself and how you plan to change it. Because what is a resolution but a promise to ourselves that we will get better at things by working harder? We resolve to improve upon ourselves so that this year can be better than the last. Rather than listing our inadequacies and expecting someone to tell us we are wrong, we list them and hope to be held accountable as we find ways to do something about it.
So I'm starting here. Last year, I wrote only seven blog entries. Writing is something that I enjoy and that I have been encouraged to pursue by people that I trust and yet I have not worked to improve myself as a writer. If I want to get better, I have to do more.
I'm also going to run a 10K. I started running last year around this time and have completed two 5K races. I met my weight loss goals and have been able to maintain to a satisfactory degree. But if I want to get better, I have to do more.
My other resolution seems a bit counter intuitive to the rest of what I have been saying, but I feel like it still applies. I need to relax. If I want to feel better, I need to do more for myself. I need to invest time where it is valuable, I need to seek out things and people that bring me joy and peace, I need to mindfully, actively, and consistently be kind to myself. If I want to be better, feel better, do better, live better, give better... I need to be, feel, do, live, and give MORE. I will start 2013 resolved to be proactive.
And hopefully I will greet 2014 with AT LEAST eight blog entries.